We had our first day of “cold” weather today and this week’s family photo is probably one of the most honest pictures we could share- Judah & I still in our night clothes, John just getting home from class, spending some time soaking up the weather change in the backyard.
If I’m being honest, I don’t think I’ve brushed my teeth yet today and the thought of make-up or grooming hasn’t even crossed my mind. I’ll get there eventually though. Judah hasn’t been feeling too hot (or sleeping much at night) for the past couple of days. So for once, I don’t feel guilty that we’re living in our nightclothes. Actually, I don’t feel guilty about it too often…unless I’m on social media.
Not that long ago, when I told a friend (that I don’t really see in person) about some not-so-easy things going on for me, her response (after giving me advice, of course) was “Now I don’t hate you as much”. This made me realize that when it comes to the internet, most people typically only share the happy, pretty, exciting times in life…not the make-up-free, night clothes and tired eyes look. We’re all guilty of it.
It’s such a bittersweet notion. I like seeing happy times. Positivity AND negativity are both highly contagious. If I look at pictures of puppies when I wake up, chances are I’ll be smiling all day. However, on rough days, it’s easy to see the internet version of others doing-it-all (You know, the mom that’s juggling sick kids, a business, a blog, a social life, a husband, all without a pretty little hair out of place or a smudge in her lipstick) and feel even worse.
I’m not talking badly about anyone that does this- I do it myself. However, some of my favorite people to follow on Instagram are the moms that share beautiful photos with a 100% honest caption- often containing profanity and the details of a crazy day or hard time. It’s real and it’s beautiful. I strive to be that honest.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, it’s easy to feel alone- especially as a stay-at-home or work-from-home mom. But keep in mind that everyone struggles- just in different ways. On those rough days, I promise you’re not alone. I remind myself of this constantly.
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE our life just as it is, but our grass isn’t always green. We have hard times. We struggle. We cry. We never sleep. We stay in our night clothes all day and forget to brush our teeth. But at the end of the day, I wouldn’t trade this life we have for the world because it’s ours- hard times and all.